Heart Break

     Valentine's day is a tough day for many.  For those without someone special in their lives it is a cruel reminder that they are alone in matters of the heart.  Many of these people are going to be down because of that situation.  Then there are those of us who are depressed and have loved ones in our lives.  A couple, or family, in the throes of heavy depression this time of year can be exhausting. 
     If you have someone close to you who is depressed and you are not, then it is very hard to understand what they are going through.  One moment they seem fine and the next they withdraw and become distant.  And the length of time that distance can happen varies.  Once it goes beyond a few days the loved one starts to not only worry but also the isolation is dreadful.
     Why is this happening?  I wish I could put my finger on the exact reasons but I do know that the weight of true depression can cause the depressed person to head into a downward spiral that he/she believes they will not come out of.  They not only lose confidence in themselves but they lose confidence in the ability of anyone, including their closest loved ones, helping them.  The safety of television. a book, food or sleep seems like a better alternative than talking it out.  Especially when you don't know what is really bothering you, why you are acting this way and what you can do about it. 
     Well, here is what you do about it.  Get in to see your doctor and tell them what is going on.  Don't let them talk you out of anything short of a new direction of treatment or some other positive move forward.  Whatever you were doing is not working and waiting months and years for a change will not do.  You may even want to consider a naturopathic remedy.  Seek out those professionals and see what they can offer.  What ever you do ... DO NOT GIVE UP!  Not on yourself or your loved ones.